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Episode 23: The Body Knows the Score Part 2

Blink of an Eye Episode 23: The Body Keeps the Score Part 2

Has your heart leapt when you received a call, an email, a piece of mail, a visit from a specific person before you even knew the purpose of their communication? Do you ever tighten up with dread, fear, stress when certain people write to you as well? This is the body giving us wisdom and often protecting us, and Louise is reminded about somatic awareness. Louise continues her drive down the Garden State Parkway with James and has taken notice of those texting her that she drank in like a cool birdbath on a summer day, and others had her shoulders in her ears, holding her breath. Trauma can envelop us so deeply that we don’t even recognize where we are, when we’ve been there many times, just from a different path. Join Louise as she is reminded of the freeing beauty of silence and a long drive to let all guard down and allow emotion to take over and the body to allow its release, the start of trauma healing.

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 23: The Body Knows the Score Part 2 August 9. DAY 5. 

In this Episode you will hear interview excerpts from

James Schmucker: Archer’s dear friend in Cape May who was a Beach life guard and saved his life rescuing him from the ocean, and is currently working at Cape May Winery and Vineyard as fieldworker.

 

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Episode 22: The Body Knows the Score

Blink of an Eye Episode 22: The Body Knows the Score

Heroes, including seasoned ones, experience trauma from the rescue event. It can change them forever. Louise reflected back on yesterday’s beautiful visit from Archer’s life-saving hero, James Schmucker, and the impact it had on both Archer and James as Archer expressed the gratitude he felt for his friend who saved his life. It was a gift of a deep moment between two friends, between a hero and the person he rescued. Louise wondered, How does a teenage boy process the fact that he almost lost his friend, and that he was instrumental in preventing that tragedy, that very real could have happened to him? Louise reminds us that more than the immediate circle of our “house family” is affected by a traumatic event and she begins the journey of sharing how trauma can be healed through the body. Join Louise as she takes you on a car ride on the Garden State Parkway, with James. And, she invites you to the rest of the story.

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 22: The Body Knows the Score August 9. DAY 5. 

 

In this Episode you will hear interview excerpts from

James Schmucker: Archer’s dear friend in Cape May who was a Beach life guard and saved his life rescuing him from the ocean, and is currently working at Cape May Winery and Vineyard as fieldworker.

 

#hopeforeverything   #obtaineverything

Episode 21: Never Underestimate the Humanity of Boys

Blink of an Eye Episode 21: Never Underestimate the Humanity of Boys

Louise strongly encourages, almost begs us to PLEASE GO when we have loved ones in the hospital or in a debilitating situation. Your visits are life to the person in trauma and the family caring for them. You’ll hear about the spontaneity of two friends who drove through three states knowing they just had to go, even knowing they’d be “intruding” in an intimate space. They learned they were more a part of that intimacy than they ever realized.  You’ll hear the power of a few words from the only method of communication they had with Archer - the ABC board. What Louise didn’t know is that very soon, they would all be brought to their knees longing for these moments of communication.

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 21 Never Underestimate the Humanity of Boys August 8. DAY 4. 

 

In this Episode you will hear interview excerpts from

James Shiels: One of Archer's dear high school friends from the McDonogh School in Baltimore, and a Senior in college at California Berkeley at the time of the interview. 

Philippa Shiels:  James Shiels’ mother, but a stranger then to Louise when Archer was injured except for seeing each other in passing at high school lacrosse games. She is now a dear friend to Louise.

James Schmucker:  Archer’s dear friend in Cape May who was a Beach life guard and saved his life rescuing him from the ocean who is now working at the Cape May Winery and Vineyard.

Pete Senft: Louise’s son and Archer’s oldest brother, who was 21 at the time of Archer’s accident and in college, and is now a civil engineer at Whiting Turner Construction Company.

And live audio recordings from August 8, 2015 in the Intensive Care Unit

Episode 20: A Most Remarkable Day

Blink of an Eye Episode 20: A Most Remarkable Day

Can a professional be both emotionally present and expert at the same time? Do professionals need professional distance in order to best serve those they are protecting? Does a doctor’s clinical distance promote healing? Louise questions this. How do doctors and nurses go home at night to their families, while patients in the Intensive Care Units and their families stay awake all night experiencing trauma, fear, despair. Louise feels compassion for the neck surgeon and also confusion as she begins to wonder and question, How do they care for themselves? Or do they? When the doctors stated, “We almost lost him” the night before last, it was electrifying and suffocating at the same time. Narrow misses. Louise was learning how many they were racking up as they headed into Day 4.  Archer’s oldest brother Pete devises a creative communication device for Archer who has no ability to move or speak, but he can blink his eyes. Come listen to a thought-provoking episode that will leave you thinking and inspired. 

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 20 A Most Remarkable Day August 8. DAY 4. 

In this Episode you will hear interview excerpts from

Pete Senft, Louise’s son and Archer’s oldest brother, who was 21 at the time of Archer’s accident and in college, and is now a civil engineer at Whiting Turner Construction Company.

Episode 19: You Didn’t Have To, But You Did

Blink of an Eye Episode 19: You didn't have to say it, but you did.

“You almost lost your son last night,” was what that trauma nurse was really saying. It was a kindness. She didn’t have to say it, but she did. Archer had been close to dying last night and that reality was slowly and forcefully sinking in for Louise. For the very first time that she had observed, another nurse engaged Archer in conversation. She wasn’t just saying what she was doing, she was talking with him, and he with her with his eyes. She didn’t have to do that, but she did. It was kind. She pieced together the fact that Archer was a cook - a GREAT cook at the Beach Club. The extra, deep connections were flooding in from all fronts - texts to the family, especially Louise, texts from Archer’s friends, texts from friends of all areas of life. Louise wondered, When do boys become men? People were stretching themselves to hold up the Senft family in all kinds of unexpected ways. The facts were stark. Archer was paralyzed. He had lost his arms and hands and legs in a way that was not going to repair anytime soon.  It was clear, there were no lollipops and butterflies. But what else was clear?

 

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 19 You Didn’t Have To, But You Did August 7. DAY 3. 

 

In this Episode you will interview excerpts hear from

 

Sue Wunder, a special ed teacher for 30 years in the Cape May County Special Services School District, New Jersey. Sue is also the mother of Robbie Wunder, a quadriplegic.

 

Mike Determan, Archer’s friend since grade school days in Baltimore

And many texting friends

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Episode 18: Gateway to Hope

Blink of an Eye Episode 18: Gateway to Hope

It may have been easier if Pete had not shared with Louise the dark reality he had been carrying “Why Archer and not me?” “It should have been me and not Archer”. Brutal thoughts. But real thoughts. These thoughts at one end hanging in an almost stagnant state of exhausted optimism countered with a friend’s hope-filled experience of Archer, “He started squeezing my hand and held it for 20 minutes.” Hope can transform a stark reality. Hope is not optimism. Hope is when we put our trust in someone trustworthy. In these moments, Louise had her hope in Shirley, and God. These she knew she could trust. Hope requires far more courage than optimism. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks teaches, “Optimism is the belief that the world is changing for the better; hope is the belief that, together, we can make the world better.” Having a gateway to hope can lead the way through a gateway to healing. 

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 18 Gateway to Hope August 7. DAY 3. 

In this episode, you will hear interview excerpts from

In this episode you will hear from:

Pete Senft, Louise's oldest son, and one of Archer’s older brothers, who was 21 at the time of Archer’s accident and is today a civil engineer at Whiting Turner and lives in Baltimore.

Paula Senft Easton, Louise’s eldest child, and only daughter, and Archer’s older sister, who was 24 at the time of Archer’s accident and is today the Associate Director of Admissions for the Friends School in Baltimore.

 

Dr. Kris Radcliff, a spinal surgeon with the Rothman Institute in Philadelphia and Archer’s neck surgeon at Atlanticare in 2015.

 

Shirley Davis Rawson, a family friend of the Senft’s, the Sacristan at the Cathedral of Mary Our Queen Catholic Church in Baltimore, 1996-2016, and a retired police officer with Baltimore County Police Department.

 

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Episode 17: The New North Star

Blink of an Eye Episode 17: The New North Star

Scared and confused, Louise is still hopeful, until she is told “It was just a spasm,” by a nurse who once again callously dismisses her observation of her paralyzed son she was intensely watching over. Just a spasm? Did the hospital consider the impact of those words on Archer? You’ll hear about the terror from one of Archer’s rescuers and how it really was on the beach that day.  You’ll also hear about a video of strangers who gathered on the beach to pray for Archer. The news of Archer’s traumatic accident was in the newspapers. But Louise learned the hospital had issued a statement that her family did not wish to be contacted. Why did they say that without asking them? It seemed the hospital was making this traumatic injury worse. As a mom, she was facing more barriers to get simple medical information on her son. Did the staff drug Archer? Why didn’t anyone seek her consent?  Where was the policy written to allow his mother to know everything about his care, his tests, the drugs they had going into his body, and why.  As the intensity was wearing on her family, Louise shares her views about the real patient experience and what a healing mission might look like for hospitals. Is this the way hospitals are searching for to increase patient satisfaction? Join her as she opens an exploration of hospital policies and norms and how to change those that might actually create greater suffering and increase trauma for patients and for staff too. Could there be a new approach?

 

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 17 The New North Star August 7. DAY 3. 

In this episode, you will hear interview excerpts from

Harry Back, who was the Assistant Manager at the Beach Club in Cape May at the time of Archer’s accident, responsible for his rescue off the beach, and today is the City of Cape May Supervisor of Beaches in charge of the Cape May Beach Patrol.

and

 

Mabeth Hudson who was a long time Cape May cottager and Beach Club member at the time of Archer’s accident, and is the Founder of Well for the Journey in Baltimore. She was at the Beach Club around the time of Archer’s accident. 

 

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Healing Trauma Guidebook: He Talked with God

Healing Trauma Guidebook - He Talked with God

Blink of an Eye is the story of a mom who receives the phone call that will change the rest of her — and her family’s — life. In this episode, you will hear a highlight from Louise's storytelling as these events dramatically, and rapidly unfolded in Episode 1: The Call, and a message for you to consider if faced with a traumatic event, as Louise shared in Episode 2: He talked with God. 

Louise invites you to listen to the full version of both Episode 1: The Call, and Episode 2: He Talked with God here.

Episode 16: In the Foxhole

Blink of an Eye Episode 16: In the Foxhole

Our egos and fear can overwhelm us when we are deep in the foxhole on the front lines of trauma. It was life and death as Archer struggled to breathe, both lungs collapsed. Louise had to let go of some of her old ideas about what is “proper” and just let all the rawness come out as she instinctively felt she needed to circle her troops, her community, her friends. In the midst of this unfolding trauma, she discovers a friend whose presence she felt the first time their eyes met but didn’t realize it was so mutual and so divine until Cathy G. confirmed the story. Louise also begins to explore with listeners the potential of trauma-informed Intensive Care Units and medical courses in trauma and trauma healing for nurses and doctors as part of core medical school curricula and gives a shout out to other SCI folks.

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 16 In the Foxhole

August 7. DAY 3. 

In this episode, you will hear interview excerpts from

Paula Senft Easton, Louise’s eldest child, and only daughter, and Archer’s sister, who was 24 at the time of Archer’s accident and is today the Associate Director of Admissions for the Friends School in Baltimore

and

Cathy Giannascoli, a friend in Pennsylvania and the Senft family’s summer neighbor in Cape May

 

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Episode 15: You Gotta Go Through It

Blink of an Eye Episode 15: You Gotta Go Through It

Their pain and trauma is YOUR pain and trauma. This is how it can be when we watch a loved one suffering in any way. It may be simpler to wall off, bury it, or choose not to acknowledge it to lessen trauma’s grip. Oh, going that route can cause so much damage to your body, including your organs, and your ability to deal with future traumas. Nope, you can’t avoid it. You gotta go through it, sooner or later. Walk through the experience with Louise and her pillar of strength, Paula, her daughter, as they revisit how trauma of a loved one can reduce you to a spent dandelion being blown randomly in the wind. Louise will share with you a pathway to trauma healing that your bodily sensations hold for you as a guide.

Join Louise for this episode of Blink of an Eye: Episode 15 You Gotta Go Through  It

August 7. DAY 3. 

In this episode, you will hear interview excerpts from

Paula Senft Easton, Louise’s eldest child, and only daughter, and Archer’s sister, who was 24 at the time of Archer’s accident and is today the Associate Director of Admissions for the Friends School in Baltimore

and

Cathy Giannascoli, a friend in Pennsylvania and the Senft family’s summer neighbor in Cape May

#hopeforeverything   #obtaineverything

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